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This article is about how to get a guy to notice you!

Are you the only single one out of your friends?

Do you want to know where all the quality men are and how to attract them?

Do you often ask yourself what does it take to catch the one?

I know where you are coming from as I have had that experience myself!

So if you know you deserve better, then keep reading because I made this post for you.

Get out and pen and a pad because I am going to talk about how to get a guy to notice you. Attracting men isn’t hard, but you have to remember it is the small things that count, so you have to pay attention to these tips even though they may seem basic.

You need to be approachable – a lot of men are afraid to approach women. Did you know that a lot of men are very afraid to approach us girls because they experience a feeling called approach anxiety. That’s why you need to make yourself approach friendly. I cannot stress how important it is for you to appear nice and inviting and presenting your body language in this way is important. You don’t want to scare him away so you have to keep in mind not to give him a wrong impression of you and make him feel bad. You want to be able to ensure that it is easy for the guy to come and talk to you.

Pretend that you actually care – if the guy you are interested in comes and talks to you, you have to give him something to work on, so you need to be interested in his conversation even if you are not. The worst thing you can do is just make him feel weird by giving him little interest. Sure, maybe he is very boring and doesn’t have much to say, but at least he’s made the first step to come and talk to you! Please, do not make him look bad, and give him a break by being interested!

Go here if you want to learn more dating secrets made for women:How To Get Guys To Notice You

Your Little Cupid

Samantha Sanderson ^.^

Online dating can be a total blast and the reason i say this is there are many more chances for you to meet someone that is suitable for you than you would if you were doing the traditional dating thing. In any case there are some things that you must understand about online dating, as there are a handful of dangers with online dating.

When going out and looking for online dates, you should have gone out and did some research on online dating tips that show you how to both do it correctly and safely before doing any online dating. Be sure that you are dating safely, there are some absolutely awesome online dating tips available to you that will help you meet the one in a much safer way.

These online dating tips will provide invaluable advice on the proper way to go about looking for online dates and in addition these online dating tips will also reveal to you how to meet your online date, travel overseas as well as how to get married. Before just jumping in and getting your feet wet in the pool of online dating you should consider finding some really good online dating tips that fall into the getting started with online dating arena.

These tips must show you how to determine whether a particular online dating site is safe; is there protection for your details; is there a large enough database of profiles; is there need to open a separate email id; is there scope to create suitable usernames; and will you be honest about how you approach online dating. If you are planning on using online dating tips you should know that there are a tom of scammers out there and alot of spamming also. Spam is generally the emails that are sent to your junk mail folder and solicitation is another no-no in which people try and sell you something.

Scammers will try to appeal to your emotions and they also target everyone and anyone and will cause people to lose a lot of money. Finally, it is worthwhile finding out from useful online dating tips about how to get married to someone that you have met through an online dating site.

Other things that the online dating tips should explain are, how to check someones marriage status, and how to saty totally away from any abusive type of relationships. Further, the better online dating tips must also teach you to keep your emotions under check and also be sure that you understand various divorce as well as separation rights before proceeding with the marriage.

When we talk about getting started with online dating, one of the very first things you will need to do is create a persoanl user profile. Making use of the available online dating profile tips is a good choice as it will help you get started off in the best way possible. You must know how to insert details about yourself, upload a photograph, and create a site user ID.

Meet Your Sweet – Mirabelle Summers – Get A Guy Guide Review

Do you feel like you’re the only single one out of your friends?

Are you searching for things that will make a great improvement to your love life?

Do you think you are able to get more out of your dating life at the moment?

I feel your pain because I have been there too and I know what it feels like.

I used to never have any kind of success in my dating life… until I by chance read the Get A Guy Guide created by Mirabelle Summers and the people from Meet Your Sweet. I have personally had a look at what you get inside and here’s my review.

What you will get inside the high quality ebook is over 250 pages of fantastic content that will teach you how to not only attract the guy that you deserve, but also learn how to keep him. In addition to the Get A Guy Guide, you will also get five exclusive bonuses. You also get audio and text bonuses so not only can you read the material, you can also listen to it.

Trust me, I have looked at a lot of dating guides made for women in the past and truly think this one is fantastic. The reason why I think this is the case is that the book teaches you how to:

- Truly understand what men think

- Learn how to identify what the traits of a man that suit you are

- Discover how to deal with emotional baggage from the past

An example of what I learned was this,if you meet a guy and he seems worried or frustrated and you ask him what’s wrong and he replies “don’t worry about it” really, just let him be and don’t pester him to talk. Guys do not think like women and do not like to talk about things like that, so you’ll only annoy him more. Please just let him be, otherwise he will become angry and frustrated at you for “nagging him”! Do not fall into the habit of doing it!

I know this sounds like a biased review, and it is. The thing that makes me really recommend the Get A Guy Guide is the fact that it gets updated all the time and Mirabelle Summers and the Meet Your Sweet team are constantly giving you new material.

Learn more by clicking here: The Get A Guy Guide Review

Did you search for how to attract men?

Would it be fair to say that you are not having a great love life?

Are your friends already in couples but you’re the only single one?

I know how you feel ladies, because I have been there and I know how it feels!

I am going to let you know some neglected essentials that you have to master in order to learn how to attract men!

Here are 5 tips you need to keep in mind if you want to catch the right guy:

1. Be Smart – that’s right, guys honestly do not really like girls who like to play dumb. I know for a fact that the quality guys around don’t find it impressive. I know a lot of guys find girls who are smart to be very attractive, so please don’t play dumb around the guys you like to impress them.

2. Don’t Be Afraid to Be confident – just remember, don’t be too confident otherwise some men might be intimidated, but you need to somehow catch his attention. That’s a good reason to show confidence in public.

3. Take care of yourself – I know this sounds really basic, but if you don’t take care of yourself, how else are you going to attract a man? I’m not saying you don’t have a great persona and personality, but for him to see it you need to present yourself in a way that will make him want to stay around for you to show him.

4. You can’t let yourself go – You don’t want to make yourself look like the next Paris Hilton because you might be perceived as being way too high maintenance. The clothing you wear can be used as something that attracts the attention of the men you wish to date.

I agree with you that these things are really basic. However, I always run into single women who keep saying that they can’t find the right guy, but forget to do the things I just mentioned.

Ladies, I hope you realize by now in order for you to attract men you have to take care of yourself. Everything begins with you!

Stand out from the other girls and learn: How To Attract A Man

Be sure to join my 6 part mini course about dating girls ^.^

Your Little Cupid

Samantha Sanderson

Hey, Dean Cortez with some fresh tips on how to get girls using powerful techniques of influence and persuasion.

The other night my buddy Hunter and I hit a nightclub in Los Angeles. The place was jam-packed with hot girls…lots of wanna-be models, actresses, and even some famous porn chicks who think they’re “all that.”

These are girls who shoot down guys for FUN. And they NEVER pay for their own drinks, because there is always an endless supply of loser guys who will buy them drinks just to get a moment of their time.

Hunter and I are experts on the topic of how to get girls, and we know these types of hotties require a slightly different set of tactics…

You’ve got to TEASE these girls, BUST ON THEM a little bit, and let them know you’re NOT an average, ordinary guy who is in awe of their looks and eager to impress them.

So, my buddy Jay started chatting with a hot little 22-year-old blonde with the best pair of breasts money can buy.

She said something funny, and Jay laughed, and as he took a sip of his beer, he told her… 

“You’re so cute. It’s too bad you’re not my type.”

Then, Jay changed the subject and started talking about a ski trip he went on recently…

Right then, the look on that girl’s face was PRICELESS.

You could tell that Jay’s comment (“too bad you’re not my type”) had knocked her for a loop!

She’s thinking, “WHAT did he just say? I’m not his type?? But I’m supposed to be EVERY guy’s type!!”

So one the one hand, she was a little bit pissed off and confused…

But on the other hand, you could see that she was even MORE curious about Jay after he said that!

She tossed her hair back and started using really “flirty” body language…because she wanted him to show that he WAS into her.

But Jay didn’t give her the confirmation she wanted. He did the opposite! At one point, he actually handed her his beer and said “hold this for a sec, I gotta make a phone call,” and went outside for a few minutes.

When he came back, she was standing there looking like a lost puppy, holding his beer, waiting for him…and you KNOW she was thinking, “What’s the deal with this guy? He is SO freakin’ confident…is he rich? Does he have a fourteen-inch shlong? How come he doesn’t
kiss my butt and buy me drinks, like every other guy??”

She felt insecure, confused, and VERY CURIOUS to know more about him   

So then Jay switched it up and used some Mack Tactics to “bond” with her. He said to her,

“Y’know, Tina, I can tell that because you look a certain way, guys make assumptions about you. I bet most guys never take the time to really know you, and understand what you’re about. I get the sense that you’re actually a lot deeper and more sensitive than people realize…”

So, he pays her this little compliment, which also makes him seem like a thoughtful, perceptive guy. This statement gets her to open up and share about her interests, and her goals, and he engages her on a deeper level that most guys would NEVER try to go to…

They’d just be standing there, trying not to stare at her perfect rack, struggling to make “small talk”…

Anyway, Jay brought her home that night, and it was a textbook example of Mack Tactics in action.

To learn over 101 techniques for developing MASSIVE self-confidence, and approaching and flirting with women on a whole new level, visit MackTactics.com and you’ll learn exactly how to get girls in the easiest, most effective way possible.

Since 2004, we’ve taught thousands of guys around the world how to BREAK THROUGH their barriers with women and lead the “Alpha Male” lifestyle that most guys can only dream of.

Now is the time for you to GO TACTICAL and get the girls you want and deserve!

Your Wingman,

Dean Cortez

MackTactics.com

by Dean Cortez, best-selling author and international traveler
 

I’ll come out and say it: I’ve always had a “thing” for Asian women. I want to get Asian girls more than any other type of woman out there.

I’ve traveled the world and dated women of many different ethnicities. Busty California blondes. Lusty Latin women. Sexy black girls. Tall, model-type Eastern European women. Girls from big cities, and small towns.

You name the type, I’ve dated ‘em.

But to me, nothing compares to Asian women. A lot of guys feel the same way I do: we think Asian women are the most beautiful, exotic, and erotic women on earth. There’s something about their silky black hair, delicate features, alluring eyes, and perfect bodies that drives us wild.

Now, I’m not going to generalize and tell you that all Asian women are the same. In fact, there are HUGE differences between the women of different Asian countries and cultures. Each requires a different strategy, if you’re going to meet them and build a romantic relationship.

White girls will mock you for admitting your preference for Asian women. They’ll call it “yellow fever,” Which is a ridiculous and inaccurate term, since I have yet to meet an Asian woman with a “yellow” complexion — their smooth, porcelain skin ranges from pale (most Chinese, Korean and Japanese women) to the darker, more exotic complexion of the beautiful women of the Philippine islands, Thailand, and Indonesia.

White women will say that your desire for Asian women is about wanting a “submissive” wife who will cook and clean, and not talk back — a woman who doesn’t have a mind of her own.

This is another absurd stereotype. I’ve dated Asian women who are FAR more intelligent, sensitive, passionate and independent than white girls who are only looking to land a wealthy husband and drive him crazy with their never-ending demands — and then take him to the cleaners in divorce court. 

Asian women BELIEVE in romance and finding a lifetime partner — unlike Western women, who often get married and think, “Well, I’ll give this a try and see how it works out — and if it doesn’t, at least I’ll get the house and the kids, and a fat check every month!”

Asian women WANT to take care of their man, and in return, they expect to be loved and respected. Asian women also place a huge importance on family, and DO NOT have the same prejudices about age that Western women do.

They don’t CARE so much about age differences. It is perfectly normal for an Asian woman in her 20s or 30s to fall in love with a significantly older man — and if she’s a “good girl” (my book explains how to find this out), her love for this man will be 100% genuine.

This is completely the opposite from the Western world, where men get “put out to pasture” once they reach a certain age. In America, a divorced guy who is 40 or 50 years old is made to feel ANCIENT! He thinks his dating options are limited to women his own age, who are usually divorced, bitter single mothers.

In Asia, it’s perfectly normal for a guy in his 40s or 50s to be in love with a gorgeous, hard-bodied young woman in her 20s! No one points fingers. It’s part of the culture. (I’ve known men who got divorced in America and figured their sex life was OVER…and they experienced a REBIRTH once they got to Asia!)

My “Dating Asian Women” program finally explains the REALITIES of dating Asian women, and explains exactly how to meet, attract and date women from different countries and cultures.

Maybe you are you are an international traveler, as I am. (I have spent many years living in Asian countries.) You want to know the BEST hot spots for meeting the hottest single Asian women.

Or, maybe you want to meet Asian women in your area. As you know, beautiful Asian women are everywhere — in virtually every city around the world, there are neighborhoods and districts that have large Asian populations.

Or, perhaps you are among the missions of Western men who are looking to meet an Asian woman on the Internet. (Asian dating sites are some of the most popular websites out there!)

Although I recommend internet dating, you NEED to know certain rules and realities before you attempt to “get serious with an Asian woman that you meet online. My book tells you about the “red flags” you need to watch out for, and the 7 questions you MUST ask to make sure she is being honest about her intentions.

I’ve written a number of best-selling books that have taught thousands of men techniques and strategies to SUCCEED in today’s dating game. But I’ve never written anything about dating Asian women, because frankly, I didn’t realize there were SO MANY MEN that share my preference and want to get Asian girls.

But lately, I’ve been getting a LOT of emails sent to my website, MackTactics.com, from guys who are curious about this aspect of dating. They are fascinated by hot Asian women — and they want to know HOW and WHERE to meet them, or get a stunning Asian girlfriend.

If you have the means to travel to Asia, you have limitless options — but you NEED to know the spots to avoid, and where to spend your time. My book “Dating Asian Women” explains the “scene” in the different Asian countries, and where you’ll want to visit to find the hottest available women — from the best malls, to the coolest nightclubs, bars and “off the radar” spots where you can pick up beautiful Asian women all day long.

I’ve checked out the other books on the subject of dating Asian women, and quite frankly they are a JOKE. The authors of these books have very little “real” experience with Asian women. They’re taken a few trips overseas as a tourist, and now they’re out to make a quick buck by telling you basic, obvious information that you already know.

Dating Asian Women is the ONLY program out there that explains exactly how it is. Here are a few of the topics I cover in this one-of-a-kind book and video program:

* Techniques for approaching and starting conversations with Asian women, and making them feel a sense of “chemistry” with you.

* Understanding the different Asian cultures, and the needs and desires of these women.

* The one thing you must NEVER say to an Asian woman. (90% of men who like Asian women BLOW THEIR CHANCES by saying this.)

* Seduction tactics to enjoy a passionate, mind-blowing sex life with an Asian woman. (I know you don’t want to get stuck in the “Friend Zone” — you want to take it to the next level, and I’ll explain how.)

* Dating Asian Women on the Internet: How to GUARANTEE a response from the girls you contact, and how to meet her in person as soon as possible. (You MUST make her feel safe and comfortable. I’ll explain exactly how to do this.)

* Overseas travel tips: an in-depth guide to the best places to meet beautiful, available Asian women. China, Japan, Vietnam, Indonesia, Singapore, Macau, Korea, Thailand, the Philippines…this program covers it all, and gives you SOLID information on where to find the “action.”

* Dating Asian women in your town: how to locate the places where single Asian women hang out, and become a part of their “scene.”

And much, much more…

Click here to read more about the revolutionary Dating Asian Women program, and you’ll even get to download a FREE BOOK

about dating and “pickup” strategy. 

To your success!

Dean Cortez  

by Dean Cortez, co-author of The Alpha Rules

Hey, Dean Cortez here. Here’s an email I received from one of our readers, on the subject of how to get your girlfriend back. Keep reading for some very powerful tips and strategies on CHANGING the way your ex-girlfriend views you, and making her EAGER to get you back in her life…

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Hi Dean. I loved reading the book you wrote with Carlos Xuma, “The Alpha Rules,” and I’ve been amazed by your solutions for guys who want to achieve massive self-confidence and game. Now I have a question for you.

A few months ago, I met a girl who is a hostess at a restaurant in my town. She’s extremely cute, and cool, and I asked her out and we had a great time. We really seemed to hit it off. We started seeing each other, and everything was going great, except for the fact that she didn’t want to get intimate with me. The one time I tried to kiss her, she explained to me that she wanted to “take things slow,” because she was getting over a really bad breakup.

I figured I could wait for the sex. With her, I knew it would be worth it, and I had to respect the fact that she had recently broken up with a world-class jerk who had put her through emotional hell. (The guy cheated on her with her best friend!)

Anyway, I spent a lot of nights hanging out with her at her apartment, listening to her problems and trying to help her get over her ex. She was also having financial problems (I loaned her money to cover her rent last month — still waiting to get paid back), and she had all kinds of drama with her family, too…

I tried my best to be supportive. When she would call me in the middle of the night, because she needed someone to talk to, I would spend an hour or two listening and sympathizing.

Then one night on the phone, she told me that she loved me. I asked her if this meant I was her boyfriend, and she said “yes.”

But still, she kept making excuses why she didn’t want to have sex. I kept being patient, and trying to help her with her problems, and then one day she didn’t return my phone call. Three days went by before I finally was able to get her on the phone. Her tone of voice was totally different. She was cold and distant. She got off the phone after only a few minutes, and later that night, I received an email from her.

She told me that she’d decided to get back with her ex-boyfriend. She said how sorry she was, and told me I was an amazing, great guy who deserved someone as wonderful as I am…blah blah…but I just felt PISSED OFF for wasting so much time and energy on nothing.

Then, a few days later, I got another email. She told me she was “so confused.” She said she really did love me, but she wasn’t sure what to do. She asked me if I would give her one more chance.

I really have feelings for this girl and I want to try to patch things up, and get the relationship moving in the right direction. So, do you have advice on how to get your girlfriend back? Or, should I just move on?

– Adrian, Vancouver

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Dean Cortez here with some hard-core Alpha advice…

You, Adrian, wound up in the Friend Zone. This is a common situation with men who are trying to follow the “normal” rules with women. (In other words, being nice, sweet, respectful, and following her lead… )

Because let’s be honest. Is any guy ever satisfied having a female “friend” to talk to, when what he really wants from her is sex? No, of course not.

And it’s only a matter of time before she meets some other guy who DOES make her feel sexually attracted, and once they start hooking up she’ll no longer have any need to hang out with you. (Or, in your case, she goes BACK to the guy she had strong sexual feelings for.)

Do you really need female friends to talk to and share your problems with? No. You’ve got your buddies to fill that role in your life, and they can relate to you much better than a chick that makes you feel taken advantage of, and sexually frustrated.

So let me give you my Top 6 tips for busting out of the Friend Zone and getting women sexually interested in you. I can give you advice on how to get her back into your life, and if you really think she’s worth the trouble, you can use these tips to “re-ignite” your relationship with her.

1. Limit your availability. I’m willing to bet that whenever this girl does call you, you eagerly answer the phone and chat with her for as long as she wants.

You THINK that when you spend two hours on the phone with her, sharing your life stories and telling her about the girl who broke your heart when you were in the tenth grade, you’re building some kind of deep “connection” with her.

But what you’re actually doing is removing ANY sense of mystery about yourself, and letting her know that you have nothing else going in your life… and no other women. This is massively UN-attractive to her.

(I know that when you’re a man who is struggling with his dating life, and haven’t hooked up with a chick in a while, this takes a LOT of discipline. Your instinct is to make yourself totally available to her and try to spend as much time as possible with her. Well, go ahead and keep doing it this way, if you want to keep wondering why women lose interest in you… )

2. Until you’ve slept with a woman, limit your phone chats with her to five minutes. And don’t get caught up in constant text-messaging. Give her the sense that you’re a busy man with places to be.

Use these short phone calls, or text exchanges, to lock down your plans to see her again. Save the deep conversations for when you are actually spending time with her.

3. Women are moody and emotional. Get used to it, and know how to deal with it. When she start acting weird or distant, she is testing you. She wants to see how you will respond. Do you kiss her ass and ask her “what’s wrong?” Do you get frustrated and angered by her behavior? (Either of these responses will only make her get more moody!)

Or, do you behave like a firm, direct MAN? (Tell her, “Well, I can tell you’ve got some things on your mind right now, so why don’t you take some time to sort it out and get back to me. I’ve got some things I need to handle right now.”)

4. Her ex-boyfriend is irrelevant. Women commonly use the excuse, “I got out of a bad relationship recently, I don’t know if I’m ready for someone new, I don’t want to get hurt again,” etc.

It’s all crap, basically. The truth is, if she met a confident, attractive Alpha Man RIGHT NOW who made her feel a sexual connection, she’d forget about her ex-boyfriend in about 2.3 seconds.

TRUST ME on this

When she talks about her ex, and how she’s “not ready,” what she really means is that you’re not making her feel attraction, and so she’s testing you to see what kind of man you are.

You need to put her in a positive, fun state of mind and keep her there. When she thinks of you, she should think of fun times and feeling good about herself.

The last thing you want to do is allow her to dwell on her ex-boyfriend and be her “shoulder to cry on.” If she ever mentions him, change the subject.

And never refer to him by name because it only aggravates her emotional state. (Instead, refer to him as “that guy.” Make him seem irrelevant and insignificant.)

HER: “I guess I’m just in a bad mood today because it would have been my third anniversary with my ex, John…”

YOU: “Well it sounds like *that guy* didn’t appreciate you the way he should have, and it’s his loss. I’m just glad we’re getting to know each other, because I can tell there’s a lot more to you than meets the eye. So tell me more about ________”

(Change the subject onto something that gets her in a positive, talkative mood.)

5. Never confess your attraction to her, or try to engage her in a conversation about being her “boyfriend” now. Women interpret this as a sign of weakness. You’ve been taught by the media that woman want a soft, sensitive guy who isn’t afraid to confess his feelings. Actually, the opposite is true. She needs to know you are a strong, emotionally secure and confident MAN.

Once you’ve got a sexual relationship going with her, and she’s bonded to you, feel free to be a sweet, loving boyfriend and do all of the romantic things that drive her wild. But until then, you’ve got to play it cool.

6. Finally, be willing to “man up” and walk away. If for whatever reason she just can’t sort out her feelings, cut her loose. There comes a point where trying to figure out how to get your girlfriend back just isn’t worth your precious time and energy.

And trust me, if you were involved with two or three OTHER women right now, you wouldn’t HAVE the time and patience to play games with some girl who can’t make up her mind.

When you have multiple options, you will ALWAYS feel confident and in control.

Don’t make the mistake that most guys make, and place “all of your eggs in one basket.”

Once a woman has mentally placed you in “The Friend Zone,” it’s difficult to change her feelings towards you. Ideally, you never want to her to view you as her platonic, non-sexual “buddy” in the first place. This is why when you do meet up with women for a date, you’ve got to take things in a sexual direction.

This doesn’t mean you have to sleep with women by the third date, or by the end of the first month. There is no specific “time frame” for this. But you MUST establish some physical contact and make her feel that you’re a sexual possibility for her.

In our book The Alpha Rules, we explain the concept of Escalation, and how subtle body contact can progress “naturally” to intimacy and sex. Women love sex and intimacy as much as men do — maybe even MORE so. But you need to lead her down this path. You can’t take a passive role and expect her to initiate it.

On a final note, in a lot of cases — and this may apply to you, Adrian — the guy is better off chalking it up as a learning experience, and moving on. You’ve got to believe in ABUNDANCE. A woman who is a needy “drama queen,” always absorbed in her own problems, often cannot be “fixed.” This is her nature.

Some men are drawn towards dramatic, high-maintenance women. But Alpha Men don’t play this game. When you’ve mastered the 21 Rules in our book, you’ll honestly believe that you have a limitless universe of fun, sexy, exciting women out there for you to meet and date.

Most importantly, you will have HIGH STANDARDS. You won’t spend your precious time, energy and money on women who bring problems into your life. You will only associate with high-quality women who IMPROVE your lifestyle.

So, as for the question of how to get your girlfriend back, I’ve laid out some essential tips for getting her to view you in a new, “Alpha” light that will make her feel ATTRACTION instead of AFFECTION. How you use them is up to you…just remember, you might very well meet the REAL woman of your dreams in the near future.

And, armed with The Alpha Rules, you’ll know exactly how to attract her and build a totally positive, healthy relationship with her — founded on her respect for YOU as an Alpha Man.

Your Wingman,

Dean Cortez

by Dean Cortez, co-author of The Alpha Rules

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Hi Dean,

Two weeks ago, I got dumped. I’ve been totally depressed because I thought this was the girl I was going to marry. I was faithful to her and was always there when she needed me. But the longer we stayed together, the more we seemed to fight.

She was always creating arguments over the smallest, stupidest stuff. It was like she was trying to FORCE me to break up with her, so she wouldn’t have to do it.

When I found out she was cheating on me, I had no choice. She was sleeping with her boss, this flashy jerk who’s probably banging a bunch of different women. I couldn’t believe she would throw away our relationship for someone like that.

My buddies said it’s because I’m too “nice,” and that women are more attracted to “players.” I don’t want to believe this is true, but it does seem to be the case.

So can a nice guy also be an Alpha Man? How do I make women feel attracted to me, while staying true to who I am? And, what can I do to get her back?

— Ed, California

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Ed, a big part of succeeding with women is understanding what they really need. If you want to know how to get your girl back, it begins with this knowledge.

Notice, I didn’t say what women WANT.

Because what they SAY they want, and what they actually NEED, are two different things.

The media machine has led to believe that women want a nice, safe, sensitive “metrosexual” guy. A guy who is in touch with his feminine side, and is a friend first and a lover second.

And of course, movies and magazines ram into our heads that an “attractive” guy is also supposed to make a lot money, stay in great shape, spoil his girlfriend with attention, and be completely available to her every time she needs to complain about something.

Well, here’s the big secret, Ed…

What women NEED — on a core, biological level — is a whole OTHER set of qualities.

Women are programmed to DESPISE weak men. The most important female need is to feel SAFE, and a weak man is never going to be able to make her feel this way.

When you constantly defer to a woman and let HER run the relationship, you might think you’re being a “good boyfriend.”

But you’re actually screwing up the relationship and TURNING HER OFF.

Ed, you were playing the wuss in your relationship. Eventually, your girl felt the need to go hook up with a guy who had stronger Alpha qualities. And it sounds like that is exactly what she did!

(You know what a “wuss” is, right? It’s a combination of the words “wimp” and another word that starts with P and ends with Y.)

This is situation MANY guys get into. We call it the “vicious cycle.”

A guy starts dating a girl, and she begins to make demands.

The demands are small at first: always answer when she calls your cell phone.

Spend time with her instead of watching the football game.

Be available to talk to her and see her whenever she wants, even if you’re busy with work or other friends.

Over time, the demands sometimes get bigger: get a better job, don’t hang out with your single buddies because they’re a bad influence, etc.

Eventually, they get married — and that’s when the demands become major. She wants a bigger house, a nicer car, a child or two (even though you don’t feel ready.)

Most guys accept these demands as part of the relationship, and they go along with her demands to avoid having arguments.

(They don’t want to go through the pain of trying to figure out how to get your girl back, so they keep playing the game by HER “rules.”)

You would THINK that she would appreciate this, right? After all, you are always making the effort to please her!

But it actually has the opposite effect. She becomes annoyed by the fact that he won’t show a backbone. So she keeps making more and more demands, nagging the guy, henpecking him and controlling every area of his life.

Subconsciously, she’s trying to FORCE him to show his Alpha side.

But most guys never do. They just get beaten down and “whipped.”

You see, women, in their hearts, don’t want a guy who always defers to her and agrees with her. This type of guy radiates WEAKNESS, and a woman is never going to feel safe and secure in a relationship with a weak guy.

She has a core need to be with an Alpha Man.

She might SAY she wants a “nice guy” — the sweet, caring type who brings her flowers, provides a shoulder to cry on, and jumps through any hoop she puts in front of him.

But she has an inner NEED to be with a Alpha Man.

A guy who LEADS and MAKES DECISIONS.

If you want to know how to get your girl back, this “attitude shift” is where it starts.

When she goes through one of her emotional hissy fits, she needs an Alpha Man who will be FIRM and calm her down.

You can be the sweetest, kindest guy in the world — faithfully bringing home a paycheck — but if you’re a wuss, your woman is actually going to RESENT you for it.

Women are wired to want to be with Alpha Men. They need the sense of stability, security and strength that an Alpha Man provides.

And we’re not talking about physical strength… as we explain in our book, showing EMOTIONAL strength is far more important, and hugely attractive to women. (Rule #1 of the 21 Alpha Rules in our book is “Master Your Emotions.”)

She wants a MAN who makes her feel comfortable being the WOMAN.

Pick up your copy of The Alpha Rules and you’ll learn how to make this transformation. This will propel you to success not only with women, but in business and beyond.

You CAN be a nice, laidback, respectful dude — and you should be. But you’ve got to have a strong, decisive Alpha core that makes women feel safe and protected.

We’ll show you how to make this change — and women are going to LOVE you for it.

You can be rich, and have movie-star looks, and all those other qualities that are supposed to be “attractive.”

But take our word for it: until you make your personal Alpha transformation, you’re going to find yourself in unfulfilling relationships with women who will eventually LEAVE you (or drive your crazy with their demands!)

Stop worrying about what women want. Learn what they NEED, and BECOME THAT GUY.

In order to generate DEEP ATTRACTION from women, learn the 21 principles contained in The Alpha Rules. By next weekend, you’ll be ready to put them into action!

The Alpha Rules book contains many other tips and tactics on how to get your girl back, but this mental adjustment is where it all begins. Once she views you as the Alpha Man she NEEDS, you’ll no longer be wondering how to get your girl back. SHE will be the one asking for a second chance!

Your Wingman,

Dean Cortez

by Dean Cortez

Hey, Dean Cortez here with some solid first date advice that will make an AWESOME impression on a woman. Let me start by sharing an email that I received from one of our readers…

* * * * * Hey Dean and Carlos,

I recently decided to finally break up with my (now ex) girlfriend. She’d been controlling and manipulating me for the past four years. Anyway, I’m back on the dating scene now and excited about the possibilities.

I met a REALLY smoking hot girl at my gym and asked her out. But I’ll admit, I’m rusty with the “first date” stuff, I’ve been off the scene for a long time. And I want to make sure this date is perfect — with a girl this hot, I won’t get a second chance if I don’t make the right impression. Do you have any first date advice that will help me close the deal?

– Eric, New York City

* * * * * In order to pull off the ultimate first date, create a deep attraction, and hopefully steer things back to your place, you’re going to have to use the right methods and conversation strategies. These are explained in detail in our book, The Alpha Rules.

But for starters, here is some first date advice to always remember:

* Keep your spending to a minimum. With first dates, never try to impress her by shelling out the bucks. This puts you in the wrong position. Maintain the attitude that this is her chance to sell herself to YOU, not the other way around. Meet her for coffee (not at a Starbucks — find a cool, out-of-the-way, comfortable coffee shop for dates). Or, meet her for drinks. Skip the places that everyone knows, and find “date locations” that will show her you’re an original type of guy who knows the cool “off the radar” spots.

BONUS TIP: Make her feel extra special by saying to her, “This is one of my favorite places. I think of it as my private sanctuary, I never bring anyone here. But I thought you’d enjoy it so I wanted to show it to you.”

* Have a backup plan. The place you’ve selected could be closed for renovations, her ex-boyfriend might work there, who knows. Have a second location ready to take her to at a moment’s notice. The Alpha Man is a man of action, and always has a complete plan.

* Plan on keeping the date brief. For a first meeting, 1-2 hours is usually perfect. You want an escape hatch in case she doesn’t meet your standards. (Never plan some all-day activity with a girl until you’re certain you want to spend that much time with her.)

Also, unless you’re confident that you can take her home at the end of the night, it’s better to cut things short and create the sense that your time is precious and limited. You should be the one to decide when the date ends. (“Well I’ve got a huge day tomorrow, I need to be up bright and early…we’ll have to do this again soon.”) Don’t stretch things out so that she’s the one checking her watch and telling you she needs to get home.

End the date on a high point, before things start winding down, and plan on sealing the deal the next time you see her. As the greatest entertainers in showbiz know, you’ve always got to “leave ‘em wanting more.”

* Always be punctual. Forget about being “fashionably late”: it’s disrespectful and sets a bad tone. Make sure you know the directions to the location, and arrive 10 minutes early so that you’re totally prepared.

* Dress appropriately. It’s always better to be a little overdressed than underdressed. You can be sure she’s going to dress well for the date. She’ll feel uncomfortable if you roll in wearing a tee-shirt and shorts.

* Let her do most of the talking. Ask questions that prompt her to open up and share with you. Again, maintain the attitude that this is her chance to impress YOU. It’s better to be vague and cultivate a sense of mystery around yourself, than to tell her your life story within the first two hours.

Keep the spotlight on her. The more details she shares with you, and the more you seem to appreciate what she’s saying, the more it feels to her like a connection is building. This elevates you beyond the average guy, who treats every first date as if he’s auditioning for the position of her boyfriend, and feels he needs to “sell himself” by talking himself up.

Those are some quick bits of first date advice that will put you on the right track. Mastering the art of “date conversation” is the other big piece of the puzzle — the Alpha Rules book is chock full of techniques and strategies on this.

Why leave ANYTHING to chance? You only get one chance to make the right first impression. Let The Alpha Rules be your guide, and instead of ducking your phone calls in the future, she’ll be eager to see you again.

Your Wingman,

Dean Cortez

The introduction of the web has made remarkable changes to the way we now do things, especially in the field of relationships and in particular on line dating. While online dating lacks many of the basic human elements such as nervousness before a first meeting, finding the best things to say in that first introduction is in many ways is no different than a face to face meeting.

There is on line dating etiquette to adhere to if you wish to make good on that very first impression. Generally most people will form their impressions of you within the first few minutes, regardless of whether they are true or not. To keep messages and email responses coming to your on line dating profile there are a few rules you should keep in mind to get the most from your dating site membership.

Honesty.

While you may wish to keep some measure of anonymity and conceal your identity in first meetings, the bottom line is its in your favor not to lie. True information about yourself carries a lot of weight and credibility.

If you one day meet this person face to face truth will eventually come out, one lie leads to another and before you know it your new relationship is finished. Be as straight up as you can at the start, while still taking care to protect your full identity.

Try to avoid using standard or template style messages to interested people. When someone gets a reply that like many others is obvious that not much thought has gone into it. Try to pick up some clues about the other person either in their dating service profile or from something that they had written or said. A personalized message or response will go a long way if you focus on the person you are chatting to.

Anyone who shows no interest in the other partner will soon find himself looking for another match. People like you are searching on line dating sites to find companionship, friends or a life partner, and they wont be interested in anyone who wont take the time to create a personalized message.

Common Courtesy.

Be polite to those you interact with on any dating websites. When their is a computer screen between two people sometimes tits easy to sound rude or off hand even though that wasn’t the intention. Take extra care in what you say and remember that politeness will go a long way.

No one will be interested in hooking up with you if you are sounding like a jerk. It’s common sense and the same common sense should dictate being polite to all who message you and to anyone you message. This will definitely get you a lot more responses and emails that someone who is coming across as a chump.

If things don’t seem to be working for you, or there is no magic, this is always difficult if the other party is keen, however please take care to part as gracefully as you can, it will hold you in good stead.

To most this will all seem as common sense but in reality its surprising to see how many actually do it.

By following these rules you should be able to find some really great people on your chosen on line dateing site and hopefully even that special one you’ve been searching for. Above all have fun, there are thousands of people like you who search on line dating services for the same reason, conpanionship. Try to keep the rules of online dating etiquette in mind.